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Our Wedding Day

It’s been quite a few months since I last blogged, and I’m feeling quite bad about it as I set myself a goal to spend more time blogging this year. However, I do have a fairly good excuse for being so quiet… I got married!

On 16th March 2019, my best friend and I tied the knot after a year of somewhat stressful wedding planning! We had a rather untraditional and casual wedding, with the ceremony held at our local registry office followed by a cosy reception at one of our favourite pubs.

My Favourite Things About Our Day

Dried Flowers

Rather than opt for traditional flower arrangements from a florist, I found a wonderful Etsy store Traditional Flower Co. which specialises in the most beautiful dried flowers. I picked a bouquet and then a flower crown and buttonholes to match. I was so pleased with the result as the dried flowers look perfect in the pictures and I get to keep my bouquet as a memory of my day.

My Dress

Having picked my wedding dress a year before the wedding day, I was so excited to finally get to wear it! I absolutely adored my Phase Eight (yes, a high street brand!) vintage style lace dress. I felt so comfortable and beautiful all day, especially with my leather jacket as a finish touch!

Doc Martens

My husband and I absolutely love Dr Martens so we just had to rock them on our wedding day! I picked a beautiful lilac pair to match the colour scheme and flowers. We both had so many compliments on our choice of footwear and we were comfortable all day long.

Bridesmen

I decided to opt for “bridesmen” as opposed to traditional bridesmaids as I wanted my brothers to play a special part in our day. I’m so glad they got to walk down the aisle with me.

Making the Most of the Rain

Despite torrential rain and strong winds, our photographers got some brilliant shots! The sky looked beautiful and atmospheric and I especially love our unique photos with umbrellas.

Pub Venue

We picked the perfect cosy reception venue who provided our catering and were so helpful with decorating and making our day extra special. The pub venue was casual, relaxed and the perfect fit for our close family and friends to drink and celebrate our day with us. We felt right at home in the pub atmosphere.

Rugby Win

I can’t not mention the Wales Grand Slam win on our wedding day! We were worried we’d picked an unfortunate day to get married as it was also the Six Nations finals,however our guests were ecstatic when Wales won, and it added a special touch to the day.

The Music

Two of my uncles are musicians and offered to play for us at our wedding. We had a mixture of acoustic Stevie Wonder, Green Day and Warcraft music in the ceremony while the other uncle played an acoustic set and sang for us in the reception. It was so perfect to have our first dance to Green Day’s “Good Riddance (Time of Your Life)”. Having musicians in the family play for us felt so personal and special.

VW Campervan

As VW campervan lovers, Wally the Campervan from VW Weddings Wales was the perfect fit for our day. The van looked stunning in photos and was decorated in a beautiful vintage style inside.

All in all, it was a truly special day and we are both so happy with how it panned out. We will forever treasure the memories and photos.

The biggest lesson learned from our special day was that all the small things I spent so much time worrying and stressing about were completely irrelevant on the day. You forget about the finer details and simply enjoy the day surrounded by your loved ones. <3

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The Reality of Wedding Planning

My partner and I have been engaged for over two years but we only starting seriously thinking about our wedding at the beginning of this year. Being quite young, and not having attended many other weddings, we didn’t really have a clue where to begin so we reached out to family and friends for help.

I began browsing Pinterest and wedding blogs for inspiration and was beginning to envisage my wedding day. My partner and I have always said that we did not want to spend thousands of pounds on our wedding – it is a day that should represent and celebrate us without having to blow the bank. With the endless wedding inspiration you can find online, planning a cheap, DIY wedding is certainly achievable and that is exactly what we set out to do.

Before I even had a chance to start researching, I felt like I lost all say in my own wedding. When you are engaged, everyone wants to have their say and wants to tell you how a wedding SHOULD be. At first, it seemed easier to just go along with what others were saying and this resulted in us losing control of our own special day.

That is, until we realised the wedding was getting bigger and bigger and shaping up to be the exact opposite of what we wanted. So much pressure was being put on us to do things a certain way and to have a traditional wedding that it even caused conflict between loved ones.

My mental health has also been affected by wedding planning and as sad as it is to say, there have been times where I’ve lost all interest in the wedding. It sounds ridiculous that something as special as a wedding could turn negative, but that was the reality for me for many months.

That’s when I decided that enough was enough – this is our special day and it should not be steered by the opinions of others. As much as we value and listen to the ideas and suggestion of others, we should be allowed to express ourselves through our wedding and be as untraditional and wacky as we’d like, regardless of whether it displeases others.

After months of going forwards and then backwards again, scrapping various ideas, and wanting to forget about it all and just elope, we’ve decided to just scale things down. We’re having a very small wedding ceremony with close family, followed by a reception in a local pub with good food and lots of beer. And quite frankly, that is all we could ever want and need.

As people always say, planning a wedding is one of the most stressful periods of your life, why should we accept that? We should be able to enjoy the entire experience and allow ourselves to be creative, and defy what society says about stressful wedding planning.

If I’ve learned anything from wedding planning, it’s that I should just be myself and feel free to go about my life in my own unique way. I hope any future brides who read this take something away from it and will not be afraid to express themselves.

All I know for sure is that if you truly love someone and want to spend the rest of your life with them, you’ll be happy regardless of what kind of wedding you have. It’s not all about the wedding day, it’s about the lifelong marriage that comes after the wedding.

P.S.  I’ll have more wedding posts in future and I promise they will be a lot more positive! Look out for these posts if you’re also a simple, budget-savvy bride.